Did someone hurt your feelings? Not return your call? Ignore your comment on their page? Not invite you out with the group? Have you allowed these type of things to grow and get bigger in your mind, and eventually turn in to offense towards that person in your heart?
Hey, I have so been there! Most of my life I dealt with insecurity and inferiority and would fall for every little trap the devil set for me. The littlest thing could hurt my feelings and I would dwell on it for a long time. If you are not careful, something that was so small can take root down in your heart and grow so deep that it becomes hard to uproot.
I have determined in my life that I am no longer going to be hurt by the little things anymore. When a thought of rejection or feeling slighted by others, tries to come on me, I have now taken on the attitude, “Nope! I’m not going there!” I refuse to let my thought life dwell and magnify on the offense. Some people hurt our feelings and have no clue they did, others are deliberate. REGARDLESS, you must decide that none of these things move you!! (Acts 20:24)
To have God’s best flowing through your life, you cannot give yourself over to offense. II Corinthians 13:5 in the Amplified says, “Love (God’s love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful.” Those words touchy, fretful, and resentful really stood out for me. I decided to look each one up, to get a better understanding of them, because I do not want to be touchy, fretful, or resentful.
Touchy - oversensitive (the littlest thing hurts your feelings)
Fretful - unable to relax or be still. Habitually complaining. (your mind is constantly thinking on the offense and will not be still).
Resentful - feeling or expressing bitterness or annoyance at a “perceived” unfair treatment. (when an offense goes to bitterness).
Ouch! Those hurt! Yet, I’ve been guilty of “going there” in my mind when I’ve been hurt. BUT, If I have God’s love in me, then I cannot walk around with these kind of feelings, nor can you.
We desperately need God’s forgiveness in our lives when we mess up and yet His Word tells us, If we cannot forgive others, He cannot forgive us (Mark 11:25)! That’s very serious! I encourage you today, TO LET IT GO!! If a thought comes, seize and capture it before it goes in further (II Cor. 10:5)! Don’t let it take root. Don’t be overly sensitive. Proverbs 19:11 says, “A wise man restrains his anger and overlooks insults. This is to his credit.” It’s time to put away childish things (I Cor. 13:11) and get on with our lives. No more wasting time on petty offenses!
Say this with me: “From this point on, I am not touchy, fretful, or resentful. I do not hold grudges and I take no account of a wrong done to me. I refuse to “go there” in my thought life. I walk in love and I will believe the best. I am free from offense.” In Jesus name!