Do you have that certain person (or people) in your life that really get on your nerves? You try not to let them get to you with their annoying ways...yet, they constantly drop the ball when it comes to your expectations of them. You “expect” them to have better manners, to have a heart, or get a clue, but somehow they continually let you down.
I’ve had people do some things I would NEVER do to someone else (at least that’s what I think. We tend to judge people on their actions and judge ourselves on our good intentions.) I’m sure we are all guilty of annoying someone, too.
The truth is, people will ALWAYS let us down.
But, how do we deal with rude people, and these aren’t strangers I’m talking about, these are your family members and friends...
Regardless of what we “expect” from others, the bottom line is Jesus clearly tells us to LOVE. It’s easy to love others when they are doing everything we “expect” from them, but its when they’ve done us wrong and we STILL show love, that’s when it really matters the most.
We love DESPITE how others treat us.
Jesus says in Luke 6, that there will be those that hate you, exclude you, insult you, and smear your name, BUT love your enemies. Do good to those who hate you. Pray for the happiness of those who curse you; implore God’s blessing on those who hurt you.
There is no other way, but to LOVE.
Yes, it’s difficult, yes, it’s not fair...our flesh wants to say, “I’ll show them!” or “Forget them! I don’t need them anyway!” Yet Jesus, still says LOVE.
He goes on to say, If someone slaps you on one cheek, let him slap the other too! If someone demands your coat, give him your shirt besides. Give what you have to anyone who asks you for it; and when things are taken away from you, don’t worry about getting them back.
Jesus is not asking us to be a doormat, but the point He is making, is go the extra mile with people...treat others as you want them to treat you.
Love your enemies!
No matter how badly someone treats you...never criticize or condemn. Go easy on others. I’m sure there will be a time you will need that same grace extended to you. (Luke 6:37)
My husband has been an awesome example to me of showing the kind of compassion Jesus expects from us. There is this one guy that repeatedly has done him wrong on so many levels, but every time Caleb makes a choice to be kind to him, to do good to him, and believe the best in him. When I’ve thought at times, “He’s a jerk! Tell him off!” Caleb chooses the RIGHT way...the Love of Christ in action!
That is the goal...to love others they way Jesus would love them.
It doesn’t get any plainer than what Paul says in Ephesians 5:1-2 (MSG), “Watch what God does, and then you do it...what God does is love you. Keep company with him and learn a life of love. Observe how Christ loved us. His love was not cautious but extravagant. He didn’t love in order to get something from us but to give everything of himself to us. Love like that.”
Look beyond their hurtful words...Look beyond their painful actions and make the choice to LOVE the unlovely...there is great reward on the other side!