Did I get your attention with that title?! LOL! I thought so! I was doing some self examining the other day and I’ll let you in on it, maybe you can relate too...
I have a page on Facebook for my ministry, where I share daily thoughts, scriptures, pictures, etc. The other day I posted something and noticed the next time I got back on, that someone had “unfollowed” me. Then the next day I posted, and again, 2 or 3 more people “unfollowed” me. To be honest, it really bothered me. And in fact, I said something to my husband and then went back to see what I had posted that would cause someone to unfollow me. It’s embarrassing to say, but I was allowing it to take up a lot of time in my thoughts.
This is when I asked myself the question, “Why do I care so much?” I posed the question to my 15 year old daughter, (who is too cool for Facebook now), “What if someone “unfollows” you on Instagram and you find out about it (you know they have that app that can show you who it is)? She said, “I do wonder why and it does bother me sometimes.” We began to talk about it from a 45 year olds perspective and a 15 year olds. The bottom line is, WE BOTH still care what people think and we want to be liked and accepted. I guess it’s not just a teenage thing.
I continued to ask myself “why?” We all want to be loved, accepted, validated. No one likes rejection even in this trivial way. This might sound petty to some people, but if you’ve battled with insecurity like I have, then you understand. I have worked really hard on freeing myself from it (I’ve even written a book about it), BUT there is still a little part of me that must need work...getting free from the opinions of others! I know I can't be the only one that has struggled with this…that's why I'm saying something about it!
There are so much more important things in life than wondering how many “LIKES” we get and how many “FOLLOWERS.” Who cares! There was a time when Facebook and every other form of social media did not exist and we didn’t have to check our phone to see how many people thought the picture we just posted was cute! Enough already. It can actually become addicting! When we can’t drive down the road a few minutes or have dinner without checking our phones...that is a problem!
Inwardly we begin comparing our lives to others and how “popular” they are and how great their lives are, compared to ours. Honestly, it’s a time robber and it’s a distraction in your life. It’s getting us off focus on what we should be doing.
My goal in life is to be an encouragement to others and tell as many as I can, that Jesus is the answer for true healing and freedom in one’s life. Social media enables me to do just that in a very broad way and I’m thankful for that. But I’ve had to adjust my attitude...
I remembered something my dad has said, that the great evangelist T.L. Osborn told him once, “Don’t be affected by the cheers or the jeers.” That meaning, people will love and hate you, they’ll be on your side or against you, but just carry on with what you are supposed to do and don’t be influenced either way. Look at the life of Jesus...
You can’t get caught up in caring about the opinions of others or comparing your life with someone else’s that seems so much better, be mindful of how much time you might waste scrolling through social media, and just enjoy living your life without all the distractions!
I found this scripture the other day and find it so very fitting. It’s Galatians 6 in the Message, “Make a careful exploration of who you are, the work you have been given, and then sink yourself into that. Don’t be impressed with yourself. Don’t compare yourself with others. Each of you must take responsibility for doing the creative best you can with your OWN life.”